Same. As one of these people, the communities I’m in are heavily supportive of these practices as a part of your life, but NOT as a substitute for actual medical care and medication. Are there people in these communities who shun medical care? Absolutely, but there are people in EVERY community like this. My therapist is very supportive of my practice, but it’s also not a crutch.

So for me personally, my mom was around when I was growing up, but wasn’t available emotionally or anything, we didn’t really speak for about 10 years (except for her asking me for money) until I was going through my divorce, and suddenly she was around and demanding to know why I didn’t tell her my ex and I were having issues/getting divorced/whatever other details she believed that she was privy to. Like at that point, I was 30 and trying to work through not only the trauma of 10 years in abusive relationships and starting my life over, but the trauma of my childhood. Having her not only be suddenly “interested” in my life but DEMANDING of personal information and throwing out her unwanted opinions that she had no basis giving was really…offputting. She missed her chance to parent me when I needed it. Because of that, I have a visceral reaction to people like she was at the beginning of the season (not that she didn’t have valid criticisms).

I was just going to say–I’d flip my fucking shit if I moved across the world to marry someone who just…OOPS! didn’t tell me about literally fucking anything. People familiar with TJ’s family’s beliefs here have stated time and time again that they are VERY cult-y and rural and this is not something you’d be able to just Google (and let’s be real, Googling something isn’t the same as someone who is intimately familiar with it explaining it to you!). TJ has said MULTIPLE times that he doesn’t tell her things because it’s “too hard” like with the wedding ceremonies. Oops, forgot to tell her she’d be expected to be up by 6 to serve my entire family. Oops, forgot to tell her that me and my grown ass brother sleep in the same bed as mom. Oops, forgot to tell her she can’t cook with garlic and onions in her own home. Oops, forgot to tell her we wipe our pans with rags we put on cow shit.

Like, what do some of y’all want her to do? I’m not saying the way she’s acting is totally okay, but I can at least understand it in many of these circumstances. TJ seems to be getting a pass simply because he comes across as the “calm” one when he’s a terrible communicator and so incredibly passive and allows his mother and brother to bully him and Kim.

At least Jibri was realistic about living in SD to save money before moving to LA. And they had a damn indoor bathroom that he didn’t call bougie lol