What is with all this CBC bashing lately? I’ve _said written it before, I’ll write it again: the CBC isn’t perfect, but no one who actually follows the CBC can in all honesty claim that they’re not regularly showing the horrors happening in Gaza in plenty of detail, saying who’s doing it, and putting the BS coming from the Israeli government into its horrific context.

Makes me wonder if there’s an astroturfing campaign going on. Let’s not forget, the right would love to be rid of the CBC.

People moving into an expensive apartment on a nightlife strip and complaining about the fucking noise.

I mean I have no problem with people saying what their religion is, but strategically it’s probably much better for her not to disclose her religion, since that would open herself to a whole other line of attacks.

Sync is not backup

Thank you. Now can you please explain this to my IT department that thinks force syncing everything on our computers to OneDrive is a solution to our lack of backups?

Berlin has even started making announcements about it: “Please mind others and keep your music, tiktoks and phone calls in your ear instead of playing them through your loudspeaker”.

The German version holds back a little less: “…music, tiktoks and calls belong in your ear and not played over your speaker”.

If you mean what you can do to prevent your own panic attacks - I know of a number of people who have massage rings (aka therapy rings) and massage balls. When they feel a panic attack coming, they will use them by for example squeezing the massage ball pretty hard so it causes a slight amount of pain, and that has a similar effect. As @tomenzgg@midwest.social mentioned, the goal is to shift your attention from the panic attack.

Also, since panic attacks are often coupled with hyperventilation, the breathing into a bag trick isn’t some TV trope, it actually works. I had to drive a friend of mine to the hospital for a severe panic attack and they did the bag thing, and I was blown away by how quickly she stopped hyperventilating and calmed down.

Not all that surprised. I’ve prevented people from having panic attacks by intensely massaging the palm of their hand. They usually wonder WTF I’m doing - but seriously, it works.

“All opinions other than mine are only supported by dopamine highs” - wow, what a great new way of being condescendingly dismissive!

OP actually left the consequences of climate change open. No, it probably won’t be a Mad Max inferno. Probably not. But we also don’t know where the tipping point of the oceans is, because they are storing a shit ton of carbon. Hit that tipping point, and that carbon may well suddenly be released into the air, and then the shit hits the fan.

But even if that scenario doesn’t happen, and the world is still theoretically perfectly livable, you mentioned one of the main problems: mass migration. We already see what that’s doing today. We’re not far away from World War 3 anymore. So yes, the question is perfectly legitimate.

(And before anyone thinks it: I’m not blaming the migrants, of course they’re not at fault, they have every right to look for a better life. The people at fault are entirely different, but it doesn’t change the fact there is a causational relationship)

A relationship should never be used as a means to have sex. That will only hurt people. And a relationship is so, so much more than just sex.

Honestly, to me it sounds like you don’t really want a (romantic) relationship in the first place. And that’s completely fine. Don’t try to force something on yourself that you don’t want. That will only hurt your partner and disappoint you. It’s completely fine to just want friends with benefits or one night stands (or both, as long as you’re careful). You do you.

freshly single from a longtime toxic ex

This is really the key. Toxic relationships, romantic or otherwise, fuck you up. Badly. Really badly. You know about the tip of the iceberg. Only she knows how deep it goes, and maybe even she doesn’t know it (yet).

I won’t sit here and say that there are no feelings involved on her side. I don’t know that, and there is definitely a possibility that she has a few feelings from what you’re describing. But for her right now, she has much bigger fish to fry.

The fact that she got out of that toxic relationship is a seriously large accomplishment for her. It is insanely difficult to get out of those situations. And she will in all likelihood be feeling a whole range of emotions in waves. The one moment she’ll want to have a relationship (in general). The next moment, she’ll be wanting to explore her newfound freedom. Another moment, she’ll just be feeling really down. And quite likely, she will often be fighting with feelings of wanting that toxic relationship back, no matter how bad it was, because that’s how toxic relationships are, unfortunately. She needs to sort a hell of a lot of stuff in her head that was messed up during that course (ideally with psychological help).

This will go on for quite a while, likely years. And honestly, it would probably be in her best interest not to get into a relationship at this point. When you’re dealing with the repercussions from a situation like that, the last thing you need is something that might stress you more.

As to you? Well, there is the option that you support her getting through it, but this will only work without your goal being a relationship - and you have to be honest with yourself here. Because you will have to distance yourself. Make no mistake, there WILL be pain and suffering. And if you are too close to her emotionally or still have active feelings, it will burn you up from the inside. Shared suffering is half the suffering, but don’t underestimate what she brings to the table in that regard. So this would only be an option once your feelings for her have seriously calmed down and you’ve created enough emotional distance for you to be able to deal with this.

The other option is, of course, you distance yourself, period, or even cut off contact. I have the impression you’re clinging to hope that it might work out after all, and it will eat you alive if you don’t watch out.

So essentially, either way, you have to distance yourself. And once you’ve created enough distance and can reflect on everything in a calmer matter, you can decide which path you want to go down.

Hope this helps. You sound like a genuinely kind and loving person - qualities that make going through something like this that much more difficult. And honestly, a psychologist might not be a bad idea, either. We’re just random strangers on the internet, a psychologist will be able to help you much better.

I’m sorry, this must be a different CBC than the one I’m following. The one I’m following barely goes a day without detailing the horrors. The hospital bombings, the starvation/famine, the killing of journalists, and so on. I mean, the CBC ain’t perfect, but it’s definitely not whitewashing the situation in Gaza. Even when the news making event is about the Israeli hostages (not too often nowadays), a sizeable chunk is still dedicated to the horrors in Gaza to put it into perspective. And I don’t think I’ve ever seen a statement from Israeli government officials get aired without serious scrutiny in the last year.

I really hope phones get better Linux support soon… it really isn’t daily driver material for most phones at the moment.

When people have created a narrative that “white x y z men” are responsible for all the evil in the world (I’m exagerating, but you get my drift), it creates a very difficult situation when those people are facing some serious difficulties. The intellectually lazy thing to do in that case is to brush it off or minimize it, like in the ways you’ve described. And unfortunately, that’s the route those same people will take, since identity politics are intellectually lazy (and lacking compassion, but that’s another story).

The unfortunate part of it is that the right has taken advantage of that wide open flank, which is one main reasons we’re in this current clusterfuck.

In case anyone was thinking the same thing I was: no, it wasn’t a parasite, it was named that way due to its shape.

In Germany that’s called a hooker’s breakfast.

The page is here. Under “rate addendum number 7” you can find a pdf with the prices.

It can’t be said often enough: fuck Axel Springer.

As @myotheraccount mentioned, this is 330km/h, but yes, they still need drivers. On the high speed lines, the train can do quite a bit on its own, but you still need a driver to take care of the stops at stations, for non-high speed sections which generally don’t have the automation infrastructure, and for the case the something doesn’t work or go as intended.

There’s not much of a need to “keep an eye on the machines”, they’re pretty sturdy, made to go at that speed and have gone through a number of tests to ensure everything works the way it should. Unless we’re doing a test run, but that’s another story.

Reminds me of an ad from over a decade ago. (For those who speak German: youtube, sorry, I want able to get an invidious Link working )

A woman is sitting at a bar, and a man in a suit comes up and sits right next to her, taps his car keys on the table, and then lays them on the table and moves them towards her.

“400 horsepower, 12 cylinders, top speed 296…” He nods proudly. “Tomorrow evening 7 o’clock?”

She grabs a large key on her keychain and shows it to him: “10,877 horsepower, top speed 330, tomorrow morning, 8:43…” She puts the key on the table and pushes it next to his key. “…track 7”.

The ad was from the German railroad attempting to recruit drivers.

Sind leider nicht die ersten. VIA in Kanada hat es schon vor ca. Einem Jahr eingeführt.

Liebe DB, wehe ihr kopiert das.