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This was specific to calculus homework but it has turned out to be very good advice, “when you don’t know what to do, do something”. Often decisions can be paralyzing or problems can feel insurmountable but doing nothing is a choice. Very rarely is it the best one.
Your job is not your family. You owe them nothing. Do your job well and leave the work at the door when you leave at the end of the day. Unless you’re an owner, every bit of extra work you do is you being robbed.
Lately i talked to a lot of elderly people or people who just retired because work. They don’t know each other, they don’t even live close to each other, but the thing they have in common is the need to talk to me about young people who don’t want to work anymore. Telling me stories that “young people” just leave work when their shift is over, not caring about the company at all.
An okay plan applied immediately and vigorously is INFINTELY better than a perfect plan ten minutes too late.
Emotional and ready to quit your job/break up with someone/confront someone?
Write down what you want to say/write. WRITE IT ALL DOWN.
Wait 24 hours. Read it again.
Do you still think you should send it? Then send it.
80% of the time my issue was stupid and my reaction inappropriate, but because I kept my mouth shut, all I had to do was tear up a piece of paper.
Thanks dad. That’s served me well.
Also, even if you are making the right descision in breaking things off, often the more you say the more ammo/pain you are giving to the other party. Most of the time, the “wait 24h” trick makes you realize you are saying too much.
Live below your means, but not too far.
Never make fun of someone’s job. No matter how “beneath you” it is, somebody has to do it, and we should all appreciate that they do it.
What about looksmaxing influencers? I can make fun of their job right?
I think the jury is still out on whether or not that’s a job, so I think it’s allowed for now.
My brother keeps bringing up parking wardens and no matter how I’m trying to put myself in their (employer’s) shoes, I’m unable to convince him.
No, your brothers right. Fuck those assholes.
Hey, there’s always exceptions to the rule. 🤷🏻♂️
Everyone’s got a job, so they can feed themselves at least
Also, they don’t make the rules, they just implement them. They’re not the cause, just the symptom. Go for the cause.
don’t waste too much time and energy trying to open some doors. Sometimes there’s a different path there waiting for you and sometimes the room is just not worth visiting
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and one of the most precious things I ever heard, not even a straightforward advice, just pure, genuine gold:
„As a man, entire world can judge me and I don’t care all that much, I am not perfect, I make mistakes, I may fall, I may fail, I may hurt, I may help, I learn and I try my best… and I am not scared of any of that, I can handle that… or even learn how to handle it better. BUT as a father, only you and your brother can judge me and about that judgement… I care the most and being a father is my biggest responsibility and the most scary thing I have ever done in my life and possibly will ever do. I know you are still young and you don’t have to but please just understand that as much as you can.“
" You gotta be true to who you really are, cause no one’s gotta wear the shoes you got "
Given to me by a former friend, high as a rocket to Venus, upon my stumbling attempt to come out to him twenty years ago
Only break one law at a time.
Thank you pops. It probably did keep me from fucking my life up (worse).
Learn how to deal with people.
No matter what you do in life you have to deal with people in some way. Even if they are paid to do what you tell them it’s a huge difference if they put your request on the top or bottom of their pile.
Ask yourself the three things before you say anything.
- Does this need to be said?
- Does this need to be said by me?
- Does this need to be said by me now?
Craig Ferguson
This has been helpful for me in meetings since I have a tendency to talk more than I probably should.
HR rep: if you’re gonna go down take people with you.
Admitting a mistake is NOT the same as admitting weakness or stupidity.
Depends on the culture:
in empiricist/objective science-culture, that’s true, but in authority-based cultures, … that won’t work.
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The three least heard words in the universe will serve you well, and often catch people off guard - don’t be afraid to use them.
“I was wrong.”
Admit your mistakes when they happen, then when something goes wrong no one will accuse you.
It’s also not hard to do casually without having to grovel. My nursing subspecialty is violence management and I frequently respond to things with,“thank you for reminding me, I’m going to go do that now!” and,“I hadn’t realized that was your preference, thank you for letting me know!” or,“that’s a good thing to point out I’m glad you’re being an active participant in your care!” You don’t even have to say you’re wrong half the time you can also just regularly tell people they’re right.
definitely some layers to this advice for sure, situation and relationship matters!
Never compare yourself to others but only to yourself from the past.
Be grateful for what you have.
