They said early on in this season that she lived in India for a year before deciding to move there permanently to be with TJ. Did people not see where she said that the things she chose for the apartment construction were not what she picked out before she left? Why is everyone saying she should have researched the culture? I’m pretty sure living there for a year can equal to doing some research on the internet.
His culture for his families values according to other subs from Indian sources. I have said that TJ’s culture was very backwards and it was also said that there was no way she would’ve known unless he would’ve told her directly cause they don’t practice like most modern Indian families to that extreme, he also said at the beginning of the show that he’s not telling her the truth because she would not have married him.
Exactly!!! It’s not so cut and dry
Agreed he lied to her but also she is insane
Exactly!!!
Yes‼️. I never understood the hate everyone has for her. None of us are perfect. It was unacceptable the way he lied to her
Same. Completely unsure why they’re so tough on her for being frustrated and having emotions but let him get off Scot free
I know why…
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The dislike people have for Kim stems from her immature and over-the-top reactions to things
You can still be upset, but express yourself in a calm way, so that the conversation doesn’t get derailed, and the issue can be resolved
She just screams and acts totally unbalanced
She had choice, and the freedom to leave. She caught TJ in lies before the wedding, she stayed at the house before the wedding and saw how they lived, she knew what the expectations would be for her before the wedding, because TJ’s crazy brother told her. Instead of leaving she chose to stay, and then was hostile that they weren’t accommodating to her culture. She made herself out to be a victim when she had absolutely unrealistic expectations of the entire family, and she had all the power to protect herself by leaving.
She did leave
Finally, after looking crazed. Given that she claims to be clairvoyant, it was not soon enough.
What’s weird about it? The adult sons sleep in bed with their mother and the dad sleeps on the floor in the living room over a disagreement that no one has ever discussed. Seems chill to me. 🤣
And they’re also not giving her any room for her own traditions and culture. The wedding had to be 100% what they wanted. The household has to be exactly what they want. Imagine if an American did that to a foreign spouse who immigrated to the US?
I’m certain it would not go over well. Some insist their culture should be accepted worldwide and everyone should honor it. There should be a compromise if couples want to stay together. I also say this to Americans. You can’t go to a country and turn their family into chaos cause they don’t like an onion.
We would never hear the end of it
I feel like there was an example of that, but I have NO idea whom.
Oooh maybe it was teen Evelyn? She kept saying that they were getting married in America so they had to do it the American way
this was a point of contention I had with my husband for a while! I respect his family and his culture, but I need my cultural norms to be respected as well, there has tk be a balance regardless of where you are living.
Exactly. Partners need to agree on how they want things to be. Parents, families can be difficult. Too bad. They have to deal with the wishes of the couple.
It happens all the time in the US.
And she said she paid $10,000 towards that wedding, and that it was half the cost.
I thought in India they still used dowry system?
It’s “illegal”.
So, no selling of daughter for 3 goats and a cow anymore? I’m not being snarky. I thought thats how things go.
I mean I lived in India for a year and married an Indian—I would have noped the fuck out of TJ’s family in like 48-hours.
48 hours? That’s generous. After they started burning the cow poo in the kitchen and cleaned the drops of cow poo off the table with the same cloth she wiped the pan, i would have run out so fast… i was sooooo grossed out
I wouldn’t accept their lifestyle either, but she knows them - she had countless opportunities to leave. Her fiance left her before the wedding and she begged him to take her back…
But he wasn’t up front of being a wife. Had she known they clean with poop and urine, she may not have pursued a relationship with him.
It’s not a family secret - it’s something they do (probably did it on purpose to shock her).
Jenny also reacted badly when Sumit let a cow into the house. Who can list to her all the customs in the country - they are thousands. And this applies to every single country. There is no manual.
Fair. TLC absolutely stands for Terrible Life Choices.
I’m a first generation Indian born here in America. Even I would have noped out of TJs family’s house too lol.
One of the many reasons I told my parents a long time ago that I’d never get an arranged marriage like they did.
If they were a normal Indian family they wouldn’t be on TLC.
They are for their state.
I recently watched Love Without Borders (was on aired on Bravo, but you can watch the whole season on Peacock).
If you’ve never heard of it, it’s basically like 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way Around, except they don’t know which country they are going to and they don’t know who they’re matched with.
There’s a Punjabi girl that was born and raised in America that gets matched with someone. She’s the only one out of all the couples whose parents don’t participate in the show. According to her, she was very clearly told that she would bring shame to the family by participating in the show.
THAT’S a normal Indian family lol. That’s exactly what my parents would tell me. You don’t think I get urges to apply for Love Island?? My parents would kill me lol.
That was a good show, some folks had unreal expectations though
The Punjabi girl was over the top. I loved the couple in Ireland. Was there ever a tell all or reunion? Now I need to go back and watch again
That is what I find so annoying about Kim. She did live with the family and saw how they were, she knew there were times TJ lied to her, but instead of getting the fuck out of there, she he insisted TJ’s family should conform to her. That just struck me as so unreasonable of her.
Yeah- idk what you’d be googling or reading about that would prepare you for living with someone who A.) lied or at the very least withheld important information and B.) doesn’t follow the average cultural “norm” even if you know it’s one of the most conservative regions of an extremely diverse country.
But his family isn’t culturally abnormal at all. Anyone whose lived in India telling you otherwise is… well apparently pampered in a tier I city.
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I’ve never smelled cow poop in any Indian restaurants I’ve been too.
That was beyond disgusting.