She looks so crazy in the trailer for next week, screaming her head off when TJ is trying to talk to her about her depression. I mean, of course she’s depressed, she can’t work and she’s in a foreign country without her friends and family. That’s the show. That being said, I can’t stand her, and I’m really liking the brother-in-law more and more, especially when he laughs at her.
She stopped developing at age 4. Her dad is the enabler. Not good. She spent a year there already. Lame and lazy. How can you “love” someone enough to move to their country, yet not even attempt to become assimilated–remember, she had already spent a year there. She didn’t even bother to help with her wedding, or do research on the traditions. TJ, hope you like raising a big screaming baby, instead of a life partner.
I thought there was a preview of her screaming but it wasn’t aired.
Which episode was this? I’m just curious about the conversation TJ was having to make her scream.
And she’s about as clairvoyant as TJ’s ass!
Yes, “that’s the show”. Also known at TV gold.
I could’ve sworn that already happened in the beginning of the season
No, it was teased early, by hasn’t happened yet.
No, it was teased early, by hasn’t happened yet.
She’s the prime example of why trying to burn sage, light candles, do yoga and collect rocks (sorry, crystals) to treat psychological issues and past trauma doesn’t work. It’s weird how it’s always the same profile of people who do this, but who won’t go and seek therapy, a psychiatrist, and/or medication. Her behaviour is a manifestation of a lot of issues that she is now putting on others. That’s not to say that it wouldn’t absolutely suck being a housemaid to an entire family who belong to another culture, but it isn’t as if Indian culture is shrouded in secrecy, she could have easily found all of this out. She’s entitled and needs professional help.
That’s right though. The usual folks who gravitate towards pop spirituality (activities that you listed including tarot etc.) I feel are using it as an escape from actual deep work and accountability often times. This goes for religion too…just dodging the real painful stuff and masking it thru spiritual activities rather than actually getting to the root.
Hey, it happens. Life is rough. So is Indian life as an American.
That’s right though. The usual folks who gravitate towards pop spirituality (activities that you listed including tarot etc.) I feel are using it as an escape from actual deep work and accountability often times. This goes for religion too…just dodging the real painful stuff and masking it thru spiritual activities rather than actually getting to the root.
Hey, it happens. Life is rough. So is Indian life as an American.
Well said 👏🏾 👏🏽👏🏼👏🏻
Well said 👏🏾 👏🏽👏🏼👏🏻
Exactly! I’m also spiritual, but I would never use my own practice in replacement of modern medicine. Like I see spirituality as helpful for introspection and things like meditation do have health benefits - but it is nowhere near medicine and modern healthcare. People should still see medical professionals if they need them. Spirituality isn’t going to help much there.
You dont know many people who use sage and carry rocks do you? Most of the ones i know absolutely support therapy and seeking professional help. Please dont lump us together because of what you see on tv.
Surprisingly the people i know who WONT seek a therapist, are people who arent open to other peoples ways of dealing with trauma.
People generally aren’t burning sage, lighting candles or collecting crystals to treat psychological issues. Those things are a part of valid spiritual practice, and I don’t really know anyone who does that stuff who doesn’t believe in going to the doctor. I’ve been seeing a therapist since I was 12 and I take Wellbutrin, but I also consult a shaman once in a while. Some people do all of the things. I would be willing to try anything to treat depression - ketamine, shrooms, dream therapy, whatever. I would say that people who are more open minded to these things are more likely to seek help and various therapists.
1000% agreed
Same. As one of these people, the communities I’m in are heavily supportive of these practices as a part of your life, but NOT as a substitute for actual medical care and medication. Are there people in these communities who shun medical care? Absolutely, but there are people in EVERY community like this. My therapist is very supportive of my practice, but it’s also not a crutch.
I have a spiritual practice that helps me immensely with my mental health issues. I also see a therapist and psychiatrist regularly and am medicated. However therapy & medication does not work for me without my spiritual practice. Slapping someone in the face with pills is just a band-aid, not a lasting resolution in my experience. Spirituality and western medicine do not necessarily negate each other.
If the correct psychiatric medication is not working for you without spiritual practices - then it isn’t the right medication. Sorry to say, but that’s the be all and end all of it. Spiritual practices and meditation may aid in calming or focusing your transient emotional states, but they have absolutely NO bearing on psychiatric medication, if it is correct and given in the correct doses. I’m a doctor, so, I’m really not sure I’m the right audience for comments like this. I’m happy it helps you.
okay this is a BAD take, especially for a doctor
in mental health, medication is often used transitionally while people learn other ways to manage their symptoms
This is identical to saying a patient wouldn’t need therapy if they were only on the right medication
If the correct psychiatric medication is not working for you without spiritual practices - then it isn’t the right medication. Sorry to say, but that’s the be all and end all of it. Spiritual practices and meditation may aid in calming or focusing your transient emotional states, but they have absolutely NO bearing on psychiatric medication, if it is correct and given in the correct doses. I’m a doctor, so, I’m really not sure I’m the right audience for comments like this. I’m happy it helps you.
1 thousand percent this. It’s not enough for her to say “oh I grew up in a toxic home I don’t want that” there has to be reckoning, recovery, sometimes yes therapy. Work has to go into recognizing patterns, establishing support systems that aren’t TJ, etc. Is there a term for passport bros (passport hos?) when it’s pretty clear the relationship is just a weird fetishization or self medication?
I feel attacked 😭😭😭
Everyone kept blaming TJ because he lied to her about her household duties. Truth is, she won’t be happy ever without some medical assistance. No shame in that. Until then, she’s going to have a salty life.
She’s depressed and you hope the family laughs at her? This says more about your character than hers. You can dislike someone and not crave their demise.
You can’t abuse people just cuz you’re depressed
Mental illness isn’t an excuse to treat people horribly. Ever. If you DO then that’s your sign to get help for it.
TJ is the one abusing her if anything. She has been more than tolerant and open to their customs and rituals, even the cow shit and piss all over the kitchen and house. That scream seemed more out of frustration than anything. If anything it’s TJ treating her horribly not the other way around.
THE SCREAM
WAKE ME UP INSIDE!!!
i can’t wake up
i can’t wake up
Yash is an abusive bully. Liking him because he’s tormenting someone isn’t a good look.
That wasn’t even a melt down… that was a temper tantrum. I promise all Americans don’t act this insanely childish
What do you think is the difference between a meltdown and a temper tantrum? Genuinely curious, not saying I think you’re wrong or right. For me, as someone who had completely out of control emotional regulation before getting on mood stabilizers, I could never decipher the difference beyond other people’s perceptions.
The difference is that temper tantrums don’t exist, they were just invented as a way to dismiss the experiences of children, ND people, and others in mental health crises
and women, generally
There’s just no way a person like that will have a good experience in a country like India. I’m American. I moved to England for a few years. They speak the same language but it was a huge culture shock and took a while for me to settle. I cannot imagine adjusting to life in India as an American.
I moved to India from the United States for a year once I turned 18. It’s an amazing country, but it is extremely difficult and different. I at least lived with a non traditional English speaking family. I can’t imagine how she thought that was a good move. The culture shock is extreme, and I cried more days than not. I actually like Kim and TJ, but neither are very honest with each other or themselves if they thought this would go any better than it has.
I’m German but went to an American high school in Germany after my mom married my American stepdad. I moved to the US with my Army brat husband when I was 22 and even though I was quite immersed in American culture working on the American military base after high school, it was still intense culture shock.
I’m American and I’m culture shocked from America. Can’t imagine how someone from another country would feel 🫠
I moved to India from the United States for a year once I turned 18. It’s an amazing country, but it is extremely difficult and different. I at least lived with a non traditional English speaking family. I can’t imagine how she thought that was a good move. The culture shock is extreme, and I cried more days than not. I actually like Kim and TJ, but neither are very honest with each other or themselves if they thought this would go any better than it has.
I read a month ago he lives here. Whether she stayed with him is still a bit of a mystery.
There are a lot of ex-pats who live in Bengaluru.
Often referred as the ‘Silicon Valley of India’, Bengaluru is the leading information technology (IT) hub of the country. It is a home to many multinational tech companies, including Infosys, Wipro and TCS, in addition to many startups.Aug 2, 2023
A friend of mine lived there for 5 years for work. She’s in the oil field. It was really nice in the area, but if you venture out, it’s normal India. lol.
No, TJ is not living in US. She went to US alone. Cant disclose comments from him due to TLC contract.
I said he lives here: Bengaluru
I didn’t say he lives in the U.S.
Interesting, I did not know about that.
Interesting, I did not know about that.
There’s just no way a person like that can have a good experience anywhere.
So true!
Ah yes the shrieking banshee
She really looks unhinged, too bad
She seems more frustrated than insane. She’s in a place where nobody cares about anything she wants or says. She used to be a person with feelings and emotions, and now she’s expected to just be an ornament that cooks and cleans. She wants to be heard, but if she says anything that doesn’t go with what TJ or his family wants, she’s ignored or told she’s wrong (or stupid as Yash likes to put it) I would go insane too!
yes, but why on earth would a modern, western woman put herself in such a hopeless situation?
The hubris must be enormous!
100% agree. It’s actually strange to me how much hate she is getting on these subs and it feels suspicious.
I’m glad someone else has this take, because I was shocked to see how many people bashed her. She has no support in India and TJ’s family is pretty awful. I would’ve bounced a long time ago.
I feel the same way and have found this is the minority opinion. It seems like she has no support, feels out of control, and now is in a new normal that she was not prepared for after explicitly asking about.
All that plus the general culture shock, language barrier, etc. I know everyone says that no one Googles what to expect but there’s so much nuance from family to family and then it’s different when you’re actually in the situation. I don’t know I feel like I would have let out a deranged scream sooner …
I’d agree except she acted insane from the get-go.
I’m glad someone else has this take, because I was shocked to see how many people bashed her. She has no support in India and TJ’s family is pretty awful. I would’ve bounced a long time ago.
yes, but why on earth would a modern, western woman put herself in such a hopeless situation?
The hubris must be enormous!
These are a lot of words to make excuses for her behavior. You’d never make these excuses for Kimberly if she was a man acting this way
I would if he had moved into a home where men have no control or say over their own lives and his fiance had repeatedly promised him that she wasn’t like that and she had admitted on camera that all that was lies and manipulation
100% agree. It’s actually strange to me how much hate she is getting on these subs and it feels suspicious.
I’d agree except she acted insane from the get-go.
I feel the same way and have found this is the minority opinion. It seems like she has no support, feels out of control, and now is in a new normal that she was not prepared for after explicitly asking about.
All that plus the general culture shock, language barrier, etc. I know everyone says that no one Googles what to expect but there’s so much nuance from family to family and then it’s different when you’re actually in the situation. I don’t know I feel like I would have let out a deranged scream sooner …
My issue is that she usually isn’t wrong about WHAT she’s feeling and why she’s feeling it, but HOW she communicates it. There is absolutely zero reason to have such dramatic reactions like screaming. She acts like an overtired child.
So glad I get to see her meltdown next week!!! 90 Day teased this earlier in the season, now I can get my fix !!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣