Even if you absolutely love your current life, you left something behind and it’s normal to go through the stages of grief over that. Just let yourself feel it and eventually the feelings will resolve.

Wouldn’t it be worse if you were indifferent?

Yeah I had this and it’s because my family didn’t give me that warm fuzzy feeling, and my friends had moved on with their lives. It didn’t get easier for me, I should’ve further separated myself from my home country 🤦🏻‍♀️ Hope it gets easier for you.

I guess it depends on the person. I’m always excited to return home. Traveling is very nice and especially seeing new places but the best part is always returning home. Back to your routines and all.

Hard?

No.

Excruciatingly painful and awkward?

Yes.

For me, however, it’s the opposite. I have difficulty in returning to my home country, not leaving it. Frankly, I never want to return to my home country other than for a few weeks to visit family.

After ten years in Spain, I no longer belong in the US.

It’s where I was born but it is no longer my home.

Life in the US is a terrible way to live. The food culture, the driving culture, the work culture, the superficiality, the political vitriol, the racial obsession. Pretty much everything sucks except for the scenery.

Both of my countries, where I do live now and where my family is, that’s EU zone. I am honestly limiting my visits because it’s just feels sad, like I am more of a guest and not necessarily a family member anymore. I would say too, living abroad gave me more perspective, opportunities, and also I know that I can permit myself way more than back home.

I can’t go back to my country so I have never visited it since I left, which has been a very long time ago. It might sound dramatic but I consider myself lucky because I have never had an option to return and visit, and could fully focus on resettling in another place and making it a new home - which I did, and it’s my only home now, and I can’t care less about the past.

Here is a thought - you might feel this way about your family and people you have seen when you were back, not the country itself. It’s almost always about people. Ask them to come to your next time.

Going home always reminds me of why I left lol

Yea. I avoid going home.

I am from the UK originally but left 35 years ago and have never lived back there since. I am from a poor provincial town. It depresses the hell out of me to go home, I find it ugly and dirty in many places, the people are downtrodden and cynical and the quality of life is decreasing by the year.

The sheer cost of living in the UK now is off the charts coupled with the cost of housing people are so badly squeezed. I can manage a week at most before I am totally depressed.

I am always so happy to be heading back to the airport to get the hell out.

I always get really stressed when i am in my home country and cant imagine myself living there at all. Now i overstayed and i find myself feeling like my lifebis in danger that i will get stuck here somehow and my life will end. Although i havent built a life as i want abroad i cant think of returning back ever.

Eventually the world at “home” moves on without you so far, that when you visit, you realize moving back wouldn’t be “returning” home, but starting over in a new home where you happen to have a lot of connections.

Whether this is sad, bittersweet, or happy, is up to you.

It can be so hard going home when you realise that the world is just getting on without you and the life that you knew there no longer really exists. As others have said a lot depends upon your personal circumstances but whichever way you slice it the nostalgia and sense of loss can be tough. Hope it starts to dissipate when you go back to your new home.

I only find it hard because it’s become increasingly difficult to relate to the US anymore. Ever time I visit I relate less and less to America in general. In some ways I feel like a person without a country.

I’m depressed BECAUSE I have to visit my home country 😆🤣